'My wife is my soulmate... but I'm attracted to men'
Chester* has been married to Nina* for more than seven years, but he doesn't find women attractive.
Having met nine years ago, Chester is adamant that Nina is his "soulmate in the most absolute sense" and that he cherishes their relationship.
Chester explained: "It doesn't matter that she's a woman, I'm so in love with her mind and her heart and her as a human being that she could literally be in anybody and I would love and worship her."
He told the Reddit community about his real life feelings: "Even being with her sexually is incredible because it's her."
Chester knows, however, that without a doubt, if he wasn't with Nina, he would be with a man.
"I've never been attracted to another woman other than her, but I've been attracted to lots of men," Chester admitted.
"I've never been in a sexual relationship with a man but if I wasn't with my wife, I know I would be." He added: "I know this makes no sense and that's why I can't tell her. She would think she isn't enough because she isn't a man.
"But she's the other half of my soul and I could never ever hurt her or be without her. I think every inch of her body is beautiful and she lights me up like no other human ever could."
Chester feels as though Nina "completes" him and he is sure that he doesn't need to test the water with somebody else. "But I know no one will believe that," he said of Nina if she found out his attraction towards other men.
"Is it possible to be gay-except-one-woman?" He asked on the social media forum. "If so, that's what I am." DramaticHumour5363 replied: "Labels are so pointless at the end of the day. You’re attracted to men, and you’re over the moon for your wife. Just loving her is most important."
In agreement, AcrobaticMechanic265 said: "Don't worry yourself too much. You're happy and contented with your wife.
"Attraction without action is just that. Just think about 100 percent straight married men being attracted to hot women but not acting on it. It's the same thing."
One Reddit user stated that the only label he needs to be concerned about is being "happily married", which he seems he is, so he is "doing better than most".
SleepDangerous1074 said: "As long as you're happy with your wife, and she is with you, that's what matters."
*Names have been changed.
